“Narcissistic perversion is a pathology of the personality, first identified and named in its modern form by the psychoanalyst Paul-Claude Racamier in 1986”, recalls Anne Clotilde Ziegler, a psychotherapist, in her book “Narcissistic perverts, lower your masks”.
In Racamier’s proper psychoanalytic definition, the narcissistic pervert is a subject who establishes “a lasting or transitory organization characterized by the need, the capacity and the pleasure of protecting itself from internal conflicts and in particular from mourning, asserting itself to the detriment of an object manipulated as a tool and a do- to be worth”.
More specifically, it is a predator that chooses a target (“its” victim, because it does not act like that with everyone), isolates it from others to better establish its prey and takes pleasure in belittle it and make it suffer, until it does. destroy.
It can be a lover, but also a friend, a superior at work or even a member of your family…
“The relationship of influence is often the first sign that allows to recognize the presence of the narcissistic pervert”, further specifies Anne Clotilde Ziegler. And, a striking fact, it is the suffering of its prey that reveals it: the victim – which has nothing to do with it! – gradually loses all self-esteem and often has to undertake a long psychological work of reconstruction.
As for the narcissistic pervert, he never goes to therapy: everything is fine with him! Also, he isn’t even aware of the damage he can do, or believes it’s in his right hand.
Beware of the abuse of language!
Since its “discovery”, the expression “narcissistic pervert” has had a great success: many people know a narcissistic pervert or a person who has dealt with such a character.
The term has even just entered the Petit Larousse (2023 edition)… But beware, because the diagnosis of narcissistic pervert is often wrongly and completely attributed. “In ordinary usage, ‘narcissistic pervert’ = ‘flight personality’ (or ‘fight’ by appropriate means if flight is not possible)” summarizes Marc Joly, a CNRS sociologist specializing in the study of the social process who popularized the notion of “narcissistic pervert”, in an article published on The Conversation site.
“It is essential not to see manipulators everywhere. The risk is triple: becoming too suspicious, in a somewhat paranoid logic; not going to the trouble of regulating conflicts in a relationship where possible; watering down the notion into a vague designation of people with whom one disagrees…”, concludes Anne Clotilde Ziegler. It is better, when you are suffering in a relationship, to seek help from a professional!
Source: Anne Clotilde Ziegler “Narcissistic perverts, take off your masks”, Ed. Solar, 288 pages (2015).